Comments on: Confronting Your Abuser http://dizzystreet.com/2009/confronting-your-abuser/ A Journey to Healing as an HSP Sun, 23 Oct 2011 17:28:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dizzy http://dizzystreet.com/2009/confronting-your-abuser/#comment-9 Dizzy Sun, 23 Oct 2011 17:28:01 +0000 http://www.soulstreet.org/?p=777#comment-9 <a href="#comment-99" rel="nofollow">@Soo</a> I understand where you're coming from, recently more information has come to light about my abuser and it's opened up more questions but also got me looking at different angles. I agree that there's a great chance of more people that this has happened to by your abuser and if you can get them together it might help when you confront him. Regardless of what you choose, I wish you success in the journey. I know you have mixed emotions and that must make this hard for you at times. @Soo I understand where you’re coming from, recently more information has come to light about my abuser and it’s opened up more questions but also got me looking at different angles.

I agree that there’s a great chance of more people that this has happened to by your abuser and if you can get them together it might help when you confront him.

Regardless of what you choose, I wish you success in the journey. I know you have mixed emotions and that must make this hard for you at times.

]]> By: Soo http://dizzystreet.com/2009/confronting-your-abuser/#comment-8 Soo Tue, 20 Sep 2011 23:43:12 +0000 http://www.soulstreet.org/?p=777#comment-8 I'm deciding to confront my abuser, but the way I'm trying to do it, is by getting the people that's been abused by him together. Its very scary thinking about it, even planning it out, because it can so backfire on me. but I got advice from different psychologist and my pastor. They say that if we don't others can be a victims and honestly if I hear that it happens to another person I might feel guilty for not stopping it. That's not the worst, he is my older brother. I have hate for him but also love for him to. Me and the other victims know when we have kids we are not going to bring them around him and just that can send him into depression. I'm so lost because I know him as a person he is very stubborn and have so much pride because he is the oldest and did I mention he has anger issues. I don't want him to go to jail, but to get help. Too many negative thoughts come to mind. But I know its not his fault he had a very bad childhood and sure it may have happened to him also. I’m deciding to confront my abuser, but the way I’m trying to do it, is by getting the people that’s been abused by him together. Its very scary thinking about it, even planning it out, because it can so backfire on me. but I got advice from different psychologist and my pastor. They say that if we don’t others can be a victims and honestly if I hear that it happens to another person I might feel guilty for not stopping it. That’s not the worst, he is my older brother. I have hate for him but also love for him to. Me and the other victims know when we have kids we are not going to bring them around him and just that can send him into depression. I’m so lost because I know him as a person he is very stubborn and have so much pride because he is the oldest and did I mention he has anger issues. I don’t want him to go to jail, but to get help. Too many negative thoughts come to mind. But I know its not his fault he had a very bad childhood and sure it may have happened to him also.

]]> By: Dizzy http://dizzystreet.com/2009/confronting-your-abuser/#comment-7 Dizzy Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:50:25 +0000 http://www.soulstreet.org/?p=777#comment-7 <a href="#comment-74" rel="nofollow">@EKW</a> Wow, I've neglected this blog and I do apologise, I had no idea it's been so long. Unfortunately I've been dealing with a lot of health issues that have slowed me up but finally getting on top of them all now. I agree with you, I did find out that in Australia there is no statute of limitations for sexual abuse at this stage so I could still bring legal proceedings against him. I'm getting counselling again and found this out a couple of weeks ago. I spoke to my therapist about the potential pitfalls of various things but it's hard to know what might help us the most isn't it - especially when we don't know what response we will get if we confront them. Thanks for stopping by and I am sorry it's taken so long to respond :) @EKW
Wow, I’ve neglected this blog and I do apologise, I had no idea it’s been so long. Unfortunately I’ve been dealing with a lot of health issues that have slowed me up but finally getting on top of them all now.

I agree with you, I did find out that in Australia there is no statute of limitations for sexual abuse at this stage so I could still bring legal proceedings against him. I’m getting counselling again and found this out a couple of weeks ago. I spoke to my therapist about the potential pitfalls of various things but it’s hard to know what might help us the most isn’t it – especially when we don’t know what response we will get if we confront them. Thanks for stopping by and I am sorry it’s taken so long to respond :)

]]> By: EKW http://dizzystreet.com/2009/confronting-your-abuser/#comment-6 EKW Thu, 01 Apr 2010 03:06:36 +0000 http://www.soulstreet.org/?p=777#comment-6 I feel the exact same way. It's such a dilemma... I have to be completely prepared for the consequences of confrontation! :( I feel as if confrontation is the only way that I'll feel better and let this person know that I think they are a coward for doing what they did, and I'm no longer afraid of them. Unfortunately I am still afraid of what they could do to others... The statue of limitations has run out so I know nothing can be done legally, but I still want that satisfaction of facing who was once my worst fear, unafraid... I feel the exact same way. It’s such a dilemma… I have to be completely prepared for the consequences of confrontation! :( I feel as if confrontation is the only way that I’ll feel better and let this person know that I think they are a coward for doing what they did, and I’m no longer afraid of them. Unfortunately I am still afraid of what they could do to others… The statue of limitations has run out so I know nothing can be done legally, but I still want that satisfaction of facing who was once my worst fear, unafraid…

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